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Never Trouble Trouble Till Trouble Troubles You

Fortune cookies are usually statements of current conditions rather than fortunes. Examples:

“You are well liked by others.”
“You have an active mind.”
“You are one hot piece of ass and any man should be so lucky as Christian.”

But about eight or nine months ago I got one that has stuck with me: “Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you.” Besides being fun to say, it is wise advice that I think all of us should consider before acting out of anger and frustration.

I’ve never been one to incite flame wars on forums or cause controversy on this site save for the time some stalker chick showed up at Christian’s hotel in Atlanta and I posted her picture. I troubled trouble and trouble troubled me. Lesson learned. I don’t have the time or energy to focus on negativity and, instead, try very much to “accentuate the positive; eliminate the negative; latch on to the affirmative and don’t mess with Mr. In Between.”

I believe that having eliminated all the negative in my life over the last year or two has truly put me in the position I am in now: completely self-employed, in a healthy, loving relationship and surrounded by friends who truly want me to succeed and are even willing to help me do so.

At the TV Land Awards I got this fortune: “All that matters is winning.” –J.R. Ewing, Jr. That one stuck with me, too, because I think that living one’s life that way requires troubling trouble. I’d rather take the high road or turn a blind eye to negativity thrown my way than “win” what would ultimately be an insignificant battle.

J.R. got shot for a reason. That said, winning rules.